PODCAST Episode 009
Published 5 November 2025

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[00:00:00] If you are someone with cognitively distinct sense-making, sometimes known as being autistic or AuDHD, and you do culture creating, change making, world making work, then typical career ladders, market fit, and industry norms. We'll always devalue. What is transformative or unprecedented about your work for the value of your work to be seen.

You first have to see the value of it despite having interacted with systems that didn't see you. This calls you into an emancipated relationship to your own resources, your energy, your time, your focus, your unique insights and gifts, your relationships and your sense of self. Where the future impact of your work dictates the terms and your desired standard for how resourced you feel in doing that [00:01:00] work in your way is what makes that impact possible.

Hi, I'm Louisa Shaeri, and I'm on a mission to help you see the value of what you have to offer so that you can make your work recognised, sought after, and highly valued in the world. I call this valorize. This is the underlying methodology used by visionaries, artists, facilitators, culture workers, creatives, change makers, people who successfully realised unprecedented culture shifting work while being well resourced.

In this podcast, I am showing you what it takes, how this journey feels, some of the common pitfalls along the way. And how you can move past them so that you can replicate this road less traveled, and our world gets to be transformed by your work.

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In this episode, you're going to hear an excerpt from the Culture Creator, change Maker Training, and these excerpts are from day one, which was focused on taking action. Because you're listening on audio, you are missing some of the visuals. I've also edited out any names or voices of people who are participating.

So there may be times when it cuts or it doesn't quite make sense or add up. But I wanted to at least give you a flavour of what it might be like to be in a workshop of mine. Enjoy.[00:03:00]

Glad to welcome you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking an hour out of your day on an experiment. You don't know me possibly yet. You haven't interacted with my work possibly very much. So I wanna make this really worth your time, and we are going to cover a lot in these five days, these five hours spread over this week and next week.

And I want to give you things that are actually tangibly useful that you can apply immediately. So this is not going to be. This is not gonna be like information that you sit back and you ingest and consume. It's going to be a very active experience. I want to invite you to participate, right? Bring the things that are actually bothering you now, that are challenging you, now that you want to move through, that you want to change, so that we can move through them.

So for everyone who can have their cameras on, I encourage it. Um, I welcome it, it helps me, um, see your [00:04:00] response. It helps each other. You to e to connect with each other. So those who've just joined, uh, let me know in the chat where you are zooming in from and I'm gonna start speaking about why we are here, why you are here.

Why have you taken a, an hour out of your day today to come here? Well, so for the last six years I've been coaching people who are. Autistic, all DHD, neurodivergent, neuro queer, neuros, spicy, whatever you wanna call it, right? There's a way of being, there's a, a set of patterns, a set of challenges, a set of experiences, but also a set of things that you bring when it comes to you putting your work in the world.

That is self-led. And so in those years of coaching and helping people who have those experiences to build a life that is aligned, right, that, that makes sense for who you are, what has been a a pattern is really noticing that the very thing [00:05:00] that is often the thing that didn't. Fit right there was about you.

That doesn't fit a system, whether it's an education system, a workplace system, an industry, maybe a family system, um, a way of like networking, socializing. The things about you, the things that you bring that don't fit are also often the things that you are. That you have an opportunity right now, like for the, the best time in recent history in the last few hundred years, at least you have the, the biggest opportunity to offer it in.

In other words, to bring all of you into the world of work and to have things that are specific, that are unique about you, that are unique about the ways that you process and make sense, be seen, recognized, appreciated. Reflected as this matters. You matter. The way you do things matters, [00:06:00] and to have it be why your work is standing out, why your work is being excellent at something very niche and specific.

And this matters even more now, the ways that, um, our old systems are disintegrating or becoming irrelevant. There, there's like this shakeup, right, of what reality is what our shared. Um, experience of how we interact is right at technology. Um, what's happening geopolitically. So there is the, the opportunity that you have because of the technology that we have, because of the internet, because of the ways in which it's so much easier now to build your own economic model, to build your own model for how you best work, and also the thing that will often be in your way in offering that.

Going for it in backing that is everything that used to be hard [00:07:00] and everything that was discouraging and everything that used to say, no, not you, not that way. You're doing it wrong, you are wrong, you are not enough, you are too much, et cetera, et cetera. And so the ways that we adapted to that can mean that we have a belief system.

And a belief system is just like, it's like the, the neural pathways, the. Reality that your, your body, mind, your nervous system is most adapted to, right? So it can give us a belief system, a reality that we adapted to that no longer exists in the way it did, and yet we still adapted to that. We still are habituated to show up to our life as if we are going to encounter the same responses, the same resistance to what we bring, what we offer.

Alright. And so that's frustrating and confusing because there's some part of you that [00:08:00] believes in the work that you do or that you most want to be doing or that you've already started and there's another part of you that is holding back, right? Because, and the part of you that's holding back is the part of you that learned, how do I be safe in a system that doesn't see me?

And what your work is inviting you to, to do is to change what is safe. Is to say, actually it's more safe for me to bring all of me. There's a bigger opportunity for me bringing my whole self and believing in that. The biggest advantage, if you're running a business, if you have an artistic practice, if you are doing something that is facilitating change, your biggest advantage is standing out.

Differentiating. So claiming the value of what makes you stand out, what makes you you, what makes you specific, means confronting everything that you've internalized about why not you, why that's not good enough, right? Why you don't get to have that. Why you don't get to do well [00:09:00] as you, why some part of you has to be left behind or concealed.

So what I want to invite over the next next. Five days is really examining some key areas where that might be showing up and to move past that. And so welcome everyone who's just joining those areas that we're gonna focus on. Okay, so. Welcome to Change Maker, culture Creator. So five areas that this often shows up and that for me, these are the most important.

And actually there are six I work with in with people inside of Flair House, which is the coaching offer that I have. I'll talk about that at a later time. The six one is really an inevitable consequence of you addressing the first five. And so let's go through them. So action. So before I dive in, um, what [00:10:00] happens when your belief system doesn't match you going full tilt into just backing the unique value that you offer that you have, that you bring, it's that you don't fully trust that you can actually put both feet your full weight onto that possibility.

And how this shows up in terms of your, your actions is often that you will find yourself in a lot of self-doubt. So if any of this resonates, let me know in the chat. How does it show up for you? This might look like you start a bunch of stuff and none of them get finished. It might feel like you are fantasizing, dreaming up, thinking of like the 10 gazillion bazillion steps to create your dream, but then getting overwhelmed by all of that and not really moving forward.

It might be a lot of indecision about which direction to take your work in, what to do next. It might be that the ideas, the things that you want to do don't have a clear example. It doesn't feel like it's going to be [00:11:00] realistic. It might be that you are experiencing what gets called rejection sensitivity, right?

I might have to do something that is putting me at social risk. That, or that is reminding me of times in the past when I was discouraged from doing that thing. So action is the first one. It says I have a strong inertia and put my energy easily into anything but the thing I would love to bring forward for me.

Yeah. Yeah. So it's easy to do, right? But doing things that you really want to do that are aligned for you, that feel congruent with what you want, that are like in integrity for you. That's where the challenge is. Then we've got dreams. So tomorrow, tomorrow we're gonna look at dreams. And this can be really cha challenging because essentially if you are not trusting that you can move forward on what you [00:12:00] want, then it makes it harder to claim what you actually desire is the thing that you really want, as something that you can have as something that you can like move towards without.

Doubt. Right? And that can lead to us censoring what we actually want to others or to ourselves and really not knowing what's realistic, right? If you spent a lot of time following what other people do, and that didn't work, if you spent a lot of time translating how people teach to do something, and there's an extra cost in that, right?

If there are, um, examples that you have that don't share your particular. Strengths and weaknesses, abilities and disabilities, or like starting point or identities. Um, it can be really hard to know, like, can I claim the dream? So that's what we'll look at tomorrow. On Friday, we're gonna look at energy.

Energy is a huge one. If you've been chasing [00:13:00] ways of doing things or things that you think you should have or thi or or imagining that there is a particular, alright, let's say when you're growing up or, or how things aren't. Normally done. How things are normalized is the way they should be done, and it doesn't fit your pace, it doesn't fit how you process.

There can be a relationship to doing that. Creates a lot of, um, defense resistance in you. There can be things that you are having to manage, things that you have had to do to get where you are now that. Cost you, right? They cost you a lot. There can be a relationship in your nervous system to getting things done or to dealing with what you want that leads you to burnout cycles that leads you to overwhelm.

And so the feeling around energy can be, I'm already managing a lot. How do I even add more if I want more? If I want, um, a, a different standard of how my life feels or how [00:14:00] much impact I have, then that must equal adding more onto an already full plate. When it actually, it's, it's less, but we'll talk about it.

Okay? Next week we're gonna then get into what you offer. That is the widest word that I can think of for how do you create value for someone or something else with your work, right? And the issue that people have is not really seeing the value of what you bring or not believing that others will really see it.

So this looks like undercharging over giving financial instability, accepting lower terms than really what really works for you. And then finally, we've got people. If you are not out there loud and proud about what your work is for and about, what happens is you end up lacking support, lacking supportive relationships, not having the affirmative feedback from the people who can already see the [00:15:00] value.

To affirm it to you to create a relational safety, a social safety, to step into that. And we often think we need to convince everyone that we need to prove something that we need to justify, that we need to explain. And um, that ends up with you talking to the wrong people, focused on the wrong message.

This is also about how do you. Build relationships where your own access needs in, in terms of how you access the work in you can come out of you. So the, the, the consequence of all of that. And there may be different things that are stronger for you and weaker for you. The consequence when, when none of, when you don't have every single one of these stacked is like this is working and you are believing in the value and you are offering it.

The consequence then is that your visibility is low. In other words, what makes you distinctive that impact that your work could have? [00:16:00] Low. Right. And so you then aren't getting the feedback that yeah, this is something to pursue. This is like, um, real, this is something I can like go huge with. This is something I can build a unique universe with.

Right? A unique universe of your creative or your intellectual, your social change work in a way that means that people see it and they know it's for them and they come in. Okay? So. I think that there's never a bad time to get back on track with your dreams or get on track with your new dreams or get on track with another level to which you want to take your work and including, and especially now, this moment, this technol, technological, cultural, political, ecological moment that we're in is asking every single one of us to figure out what is the thing I bring.

And for you all, it's the beyond ordinary thing [00:17:00] that you bring and to figure out what that is and to not be shy about offering it because it's the exact thing that is needed wanted. Okay. But in offering it, you also want to feel well-resourced. You wanna feel well-resourced economically, energetically.

You are fulfilled. The work has meaning. You do it at the pace that works and also relationally, right? So you wanna be receiving at the same time that you're giving. So all of that clicks into place very quickly when you know the value of what you have to offer when you are clued in, like plugged into that it, the impact of that, of why your work doing it your way.

The unique insights and approaches that you are gonna bring to it, why that specifically matters beyond you, and that gives you like a [00:18:00] connecting thread between what's seeded in you and what is beyond you. That creates vocational belonging and. That is like a, a feeling of like, I exist, I get to do the work I love, I get to be paid well for it.

I get to feel seen doing it. I get to do it on my terms, and I have the experience of the ripple effects of it, uh, giving me meaning right now. You can start anywhere. I have a client who started with me only a few months ago. In full burnout, fully no energy, way, undercharging way over giving. And they have been able to begin to apply this and have made something that they dreamt about for a long time, real, real enough to then find out, oh, [00:19:00] actually it's not quite what I wanna do.

And, and then pivoted and shifted. I have another client who was sitting on a book that they drafted, redrafted Redrafted for three years, and within three months it was out and published. I have another client who has been offering work that they feel extremely excited about, love doing, but they were also caught up in the idea that they needed to also be a producer.

They're a facilitator, social groups and particular process, and they thought that they had to be caught up in production work, right? That they needed to justify getting to do the thing they love by doing. Shit, they, they actually hated, but seemed like it was the sensible correct thing to do. So the process of you believing in claiming and building the value of your work is one I've become very intimate with.

It's one I've been able to streamline into here are the skills that [00:20:00] matter. And it really is a set of skills and skills makes it sound like, oh, it's something that you learn through information or someone teaching it to you, but really it's, uh, it's, um, an experience in your nervous system, a set of thinking for how, where, what do I focus on?

In order to mean that the value that is in me gets to come out of me without being fettered by all sorts of bullshit that is, is not relevant. This is a, a skill that is embodied. It's a skill that you, uh, it's like, um. How do you be someone who can show up with a paradigm shift, a different model, a vision of a future, a way of expressing a unique hybrid set of identities that offer you a particular point of view, some a transformation that you offer.[00:21:00]

How do you offer that? How do you be that in a way that is compelling? How do you be that with a level of conviction that. Leads other people to be safe, to feel safe to come with you. Like I get you, I see you. Uh, I recognize the, the transmission of conviction that you have about your work and I, and I wanna come with you.

It's that, okay? So that starts in you because if that self-doubt is leading, other people will mirror it. We have to start with in you, you recognizing the value and the value is the impact, not just of what you're doing now, but long-term. Like why do it? Why your way. Okay, so today I really wanna invite you to look at where might your actions, like what you are actually doing on a day-to-day, not reflect.[00:22:00]

Who, you know that you might need to be the, the, the fullness of you that is in conviction, right? What might that be looking like for you? What's actually happening for you in your day to day where you are not taking the actions that you want, your actions are not reflecting who you want to be showing up as like how you wanna show up.

So what's not happening? I'm gonna give you something examples, so maybe there's something about how you're doing things that is frantic. Anyone ring a bell? One of my clients calls it zoomies. Like, fuck the fuck, rush, rush, rush, rush, rush, rush. Crash. Yeah. Oh fuck. I need to get the thing done. I need to get the thing done.

That's the only way I get things done. Anyone resonate?[00:23:00]

Yes. I love that. Thank you so much for sharing that. The, and the vulnerability of speaking to the shame, the self shaming is how you are getting things done. Yeah. Like my value is in my productivity. I'm not and enough of a person unless I'm like getting tons of shit done. Right. Pressure's real, right?

Sometimes we need the money. Sometimes it's parental pressure and there's resources that came with that. Sometimes it's like, yeah, I need to get paid, otherwise next month I'm fucked. Sometimes it's um, oh, things are working, but I've built it in a certain way where I'm having to like keep going really fast.

Okay, I'm gonna give you another one, which is in action, not actually doing the things. This can look like a lot of different things. It can look like doing things that seem like you're busy, seem like you're taking action. It can look like [00:24:00] freelancer freeze, I call it, where you're like, I don't know what to do now, and I'm completely overwhelmed and confused, and I can think of 20 things that I should be doing, and I'm now shoulding all over the place and I'm wondering where to start and I can't start.

And now the fact that I can't start is making it even worse. Thank you so much for sharing that, and thank you also for sharing the journey that you've been on, that of course, it's hard to keep going and to claim that, right? You've got some hearts from people and you know, parallel play. If that's, if that's like the thing that allows you to do your work, that's the standard, that's the requirement.

And I think it's very easy to, to think like, oh, you know, um, if your nervous system is set, it's not just that your nervous system is settled, right? It's that that, that there is something to respond to that reminds you that you exist. And I think when you've, when you haven't been seen much and your environment [00:25:00] doesn't see you, uh, it's very easy to disappear, right?

And also to, to find comfort in things in which you disappear. Yeah, so, so this is also partly about, you know, what helps you, um, be in a space where you feel seen while taking the actions that you want to be taking, right? That doesn't feel like you're just like in a closed, locked, dark room by yourself.

And it's not real. You are not real, right? What helps you feel real? What helps you feel connected and that being something that you have agency over.

Um, for some reason the, the creative side of having a creative vocation and the, I'm gonna call it, uh, bluntly, the business side. How do you have an income? How do people know about your work? How do you actually make it work? What's the economic model have been? Uh, [00:26:00] slowly, slowly separated as if the, the artist is not the person to do the other side, right?

And so in the music industry, you've got middlemen in art world, you've got galleries, uh, funders, institutions, right, that have. That learn those skill sets, that understand how to make it work. And we think we get told, oh, you just make good, good enough work and that will be enough. And it's not. It's not.

And when you, when you really look at who are the people who have, who have made like, uh. Cultural change, like done things that like made a new category of, of art, made a new category of um, how do we, uh, experience being together and sharing culture. It's people who understood it, they understood the backend.

I, years ago I looked, uh, looked up Bjork and was like trying to [00:27:00] figure out and what was her thinking. Came across an interview and she said, oh, I'm, I'm 50% super creative and I'm 50% business woman. I was like, none of my art teachers told me that. So this idea that that part we leave to someone else is the part that leaves you wondering, how the fuck do I do it?

In the existential crisis and not ever being able to build something long term because you, you're in a state of feeling safe in that. So the, the thing that I want to, to bring you is its skill, um, unaligned action. This may or may not resonate. This may or may not resonate. This is the part where you are thinking that you need to perform.

I've gotta be someone I'm not quite, and then it will work. I've gotta follow someone's model that I kind of know won't work for me, but I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna force it. I'm gonna make it work. And how does it feel? Kind of feels [00:28:00] icky. It feels a bit yuck. It feels like, um, double crossing yourself. It feels fake.

And what happens when you feel icky and fake is you do not get your work out there. You do not show up. You are not making connections 'cause it feels icky. Yeah, and we're gonna speak, I'm gonna speak to that in a minute. You claiming that the, the specific identities place you come from, upbringing, lineage, heritage, all of it.

That is part of like, why you, why you, why your work matters, what you are bringing, that is valuable. That is like something that can shift the culture. It's very, um, um, in a, in a world steep with inequity, it's very tempting to look at like, oh, who's winning? I need to be like them. That might, they, they have something I need to like, mimic that, copy that, [00:29:00] and then, and then I get to have what they have.

Um, so there's a power in saying, no, no, no, no. This is the center. I get to be the center of my world, my universe. I get to, um, express it and I get to then invite people who resonate into that. No, it sucks. You had a lot of hearts and nods. You know, there's so many things that, um, come under executive function, getting the things done.

The supposed to-do lists. The managing of the stuff. The managing of the learning, the managing of the thinking, the, okay, how does it translate into working for me so that I can apply it and it's gonna get the same result? And somewhere there's, there is a, an an idea that that has to be part of it. And sometimes there is also a reality that that has to be part of it [00:30:00] temporarily.

And so trying to figure out whi which past the, you know, the threads of which is, which becomes really important. There's, there's like your sweet spot of when you are in your strengths and doing things that feel like, don't feel like work and that feel like you could do them all day long and no one would have to pay you and you'd be happy as long as you were could, could live.

And if, if that piece can be working and bringing income to then have someone or something help you figuring out what, what are the pieces of it that is, um, an access need that you need to account for, that needs to be part of the structure of how you work and deciding that that gets to be legitimate and a priority.

Where you might have invested in learning with people that like learn, think, and learn differently, where might some of what you are valuing about that be reclaimed and and put instead towards help for you. Yeah. [00:31:00] Thank you for sharing that. Aligned action? Yes. Okay. Next one. Uh, which is Ineffective Action.

In fact, I'm gonna, um, skip a little bit on this one because there's some things that I'd love to get us to, but ineffective action is just like, um, you just dunno how to do it yet as you like. Sometimes, uh, you are at a starting point where you haven't got the ready made out path or ladder or models, for example, and you try shit and it doesn't work.

And you have to do more experimenting and make more mistakes and fail more to find the thing that really works for you. Okay, so I'm going to offer this. What is in the gap between where you are at now and where you want to be with your work? [00:32:00] The kind of experience you want to be having that is in your control, that is in your agency to control.

Are four things. The first one is, um, identity. So hear what you were saying about, you know, how you see yourself, uh, versus who you think you need to be. It's that all of us have stories about who we are, the way things work, like, um. What our identities mean about us in the world. Uh, which parts of us are, are seen as valuable or not?

Um, who you think you are, what income bracket you identify with, what, uh, type of lifestyle you think, um, is available to you. The story that you have about who you are, and if you think of that as, okay, this is just a repeated practice way that my thinking. And my feelings organize my experience into [00:33:00] particular meaning of who I am.

But the version of you that's done this, that is doing your work in the world and it's well-resourced, you are getting paid, you are impacting, you're doing the thing you want. That version of you has a different set of stories. They have a different identity, they have a different story about the, your identities.

They have the story that matches, oh, it's done. That's just who I am. I'm someone who's doing my work at a level of excellence, at a level of distinctiveness boldness. And who's that version of you? It's not the person you think you have to be. It's a version of you. It's a version of you that's intimidating to you, that you haven't practiced being enough, that you haven't got to know yet, that maybe hasn't been reflected back to you that much.

You haven't had a lot of people see you and say, yeah, fuck that's in you. So [00:34:00] identity. Okay. The next one is skill. The skill of being you and having that work. The skill of offering, the unique thing that you offer in the way that you most best offer it, and having that work skill. Multiple skills. It should be a plural, right?

There will be things that you need to stack, like bricks to put in place before the thing can light up. And so when we stop making it about me about, I'm not good enough about, okay, well, where's the skill? Where's the, where's the gap in my skills? Which piece is not working yet? All right, I need to network.

I need to meet people. Okay, but how, how do I network? I don't go to like big meetings full of group loose chat where everyone's trying to interrupt each other and talk over each other, and it's in a busy environment. Fuck no. Never worked. [00:35:00] Oh, I find the one person I'm really excited and passionate about their work and I see something in them and I'm gonna connect with them and I'm gonna write to them, and we build a relationship that works.

Right? What's the thing? What's the way that you do it? The next one? Belief or beliefs. This is a bit like identity, except it's the story you have about the world and about what you get to experience and about what life is like. So consider that the version of you that's done what you wanna be doing, that's living the life that you want.

They have a different set of beliefs because they believe it's possible. How do they know? How do they believe they've done it? So the version of you that's done it. What do they believe? Well, first of all, they believe it's possible. They believe, oh, I'm worth it. I'm worth trying. I'm worth going for it.

They believe, oh, no, I can. I [00:36:00] can do this. I don't have to wait for someone's permission. I can be a model. People want this. People want me specifically the way I do it, how I do it works. What are those beliefs for you? And then the other one is capacity. Capacity is just like the energy you have. But also can you be with how it feels like we only do things because of how we think they're gonna feel, but actually the feeling of you being recognized for the ripple effects of your work.

That, that reflects something that is about what's in you, what you're going to have to feel to get there is not overwhelm. Burnout not being in integrity. It's actually a lot of disappointments, frustrations, failures, but also the [00:37:00] capacity to have, uh, things work. When things go well for me, I think someone's gonna come and tell me off.

I wanna get rid of it. I want to like, ooh. I'm like allergic to success. I'm not used to having, I don't have the, like I'm building capacity for success. I'm building capacity for this can work. I'm building capacity for, oh, it, it gets, it gets to feel like this, like easeful. Surely something's gonna come and ruin it.

So those four things, um, those four things are what is, whoops. In the gap. Beliefs, identity, capacity, and skill. These are things you can tangibly, actively work on. These are things that are within your power, your control to work on this is, I get overexcited and then exhausted again, some sort of hangover effect.

Something about taking it lightly is needed. Yeah, we'll talk about that on Friday. I love it. [00:38:00] So the gap, that's the gap, except it's not a straight line. Whose life has been a straight line from where you were to where you are now? Fuck no. It's more like this. Right. I go a bit this way. Oh, no, no, no, no, no.

Go back a bit this way. That way, right. The, the idea of a path where you are taking steps forward and then the fact that you've moved forward, gives you a different vista, gives you a different perspective life, and you are unfolding at the same time. So as you are growing in that gap of belief, identity, capacity, skill, so too is your perspective on what's available.

There are things you know, now that you are doing right now that 10 years ago, 20 years ago, you would've been like, what? Me? Right? Yeah. So same is true going forward except when you know that this is the gap, right? Beliefs, [00:39:00] identity, capacity, skill. You can do it on purpose, you could change, evolve, like the, the fractal unfolding of you and life can happen on purpose.

What comes up on that path is all the reasons why, not all the reasons why not that come from your current beliefs, your current identity, your current capacity, and your current skill. You are going to be on this path constantly finding every step, a new reason why not. A new layer in you coming up for review.

So what you're going to confront is reasons why not. How you move forward is to see the reasons why not as the invitation to grow, like huh Currently has a belief that this next step is not available to me. Interesting. Oh, current me. [00:40:00] Tried something, found out I'm a lot more shit at this than I thought, and I need a skill.

Okay, this is harder than I thought. I need a practice. I need to take this seriously. I need a mentor. I need someone who's gonna show me like this particular thing. So reasons why not, we believe them and we stay stuck and we don't move forward until we see those reasons why not as like a challenge that is inviting you to grow, inviting you to become the person who's realized it.

Okay? Now, you also therefore need a reason why. You need to know why. Why the fuck bother? This is hard. I don't like it. It feels uncomfortable. So you have to have a big enough reason that moves you past your own bullshit of why not. And that reason is not just getting paid. It's not just like survival.[00:41:00]

The reason is no, I've got big shit to do in this life. I have things to impact. There's things I've lived and known. There is an insight I have. There's like a sweet spot that I'm in my brilliance and what is the ripple effect impact of that? That is your reason why. And so what the default position is, I need to, where our brains go, where our body goes is all the reasons why not.

That's the default. That's your protective, like beautiful protective survival self. And where your focus has to go is your reason why. Where your heart has to be is living in your reason why, where your your thinking, your gut is connected to the person who did it and made that happen, and that reason why.

So how do you move yourself is stay connected. Stay focused on like breathe, live. Believe in [00:42:00] more and more your reason why that that is real in some space time, it's already happened. It's already real. It's already who you are, and this reason why not is just your current. Hurdle, it's your current, uh, invitation to grow.